Ok, now you guys are really making me nervous. I'm a single mom of 3 and one is a boy. He's only four but very head strong. I'll just keep praying that I'll make it through their teenage years. :eek:
I've a 12 yr. old son. He's not much for change. He's very moody and has fits and everything always hurts. He's in consueling. He has Oppressive Defiance Disorder (ODD. It's a hell of a rollercoaster ride with him. Never know what will set him off. He does have a girlfriend but only hangs out at school with her, no phone calls. His choice.
My 14 yr. is moody and getting mouthy. He's in that stage where he's trying to find his 'way' but close to getting his 'clock' cleaned. His friends Moms tell me their sons are the same way.
It seems all 5 of my boys have their Dad's attitude. No patience, they're always right and will argue it and short-tempered, too. They're all alike so they don't get along too well.
I am sooo out numbered. I believe they all have PMS 24/7. I always know when a full is coming up.
My husband grew-up without a dad but had many father like men in his life that he is stil very close to today (even with both parents gone). He also has a great friendship with my Dad which is such a relief!
His mom did remind me a lot how hard it was with just him and the things she had to do to keep him inline -- we have NO yellow spoons in our home as that is what she kept him inline with! HA!
Now 30+years later and three sons, it's interesting to see him as a dad. When our oldest was born he was so scared and I just asked him to be the dad he always thought about. Five kids later and I think he is finding he wanted someone to have fun with and love....
yeah, it's hard to type and cry too.....his mom was amazing.
Thanks ScottMom! Whheeeewww (huge sigh of relief). Yes, we are moving. My husband and I are keeping a close eye on him. He seemed to take the news OK but has shown signs of stress in other areas. I applaud his desire to put up a brave front but it's hard for him and completely unnecessary. I expect him to have strong feelings about it and wish he'd talk more. On top of the move issues he has wild mood swings, raging hormones, bizarre growth spurts, very real growing pains and a sudden and intense urge to know everything (everything) about girls.
I don't know how single parents do it - especially moms with sons. I couldn't do it without his dad!!!
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Every is a strong word but so is puberty! My brother is 21 and has been that way his whole life. My oldest doesn't like change much-too much the organization freak like me!-anyway, we too him to a therapist a few times because he just got unhappy, she told us he doesn't like change and we needed to try to warn him and try to make him feel like he has some control over the situation even when he doesn't and just pay attention to him. So we are getting ready to move, just up the street, but he's starting to get weird, so we've got him fixing the room that will be his and discussing the benefits of the new house-it has a shower and a huge yard. I think I read you are moving, maybe this has something to do with it, or maybe it's just puberty!
The irony of commitment is that it’s deeply liberating-in work, in play, in love. The act frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitation. To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life. --Anne Morris
I'm about to go on a permanent break - I'm moving to a new town and it's the perfect chance to get some quiet time since nobody there will know me yet. My husband and I have a bet going on how long it will take before I'm back in the fray......
A question for parents of 12 year old boys - Are they all on a runaway train through puberty?
Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same."
"The ultimate aim of karate lies not in victory or defeat but in the true perfection of one's character."