Oh, this sounds so familiar...Are you in my school district? I am talking with our superintendent about getting training for all PTO officers throughout the district. Many are thrust into leadership roles and have not idea what to do. They won't admit they are doing a bad job. And if you are not a PTA, there is nowhere to go to learn how to do your job. Some of these parents are power-hungry and into conflict and gossip. They carry a grudge against teachers, staff. parents or all of the above and use their office to create problems. I know in our district, one principal is just counting the days until he retires and his PTO is a mess. He just lets it ride.
I have had many parents from other schools in the district contact me about the way other PTO
s are run. Parents are belittled at every meeting and soon everyone stops helping. I want to train every parent leader in our district, even the "good" ones. Maybe if everyone goes, something will sink in. And the more the "bad" ones hear about how other peole do things, the better off their school is.
Seriously, if you are in my district (LakeShore) contact me. But then again, if it is me you are talking about...
What does the principal have to say about this?? The school should be standing behind the PTO, and if this is what they feel is appropriate (spelling??) behavior than shame on them, and I would head toward the hills pronto!! Good Luck!
<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>She has informed everyone that she won't be president next year, and the treasurer is moving away. <hr></blockquote>
[img]smile.gif[/img] Can you get that in writing? [img]smile.gif[/img]
Seriously, remind yourself often that "this too shall pass." Right now, six more months of dealing with these people looks like an eternity. But if they make good on their promises, it is ONLY six more months and then you can try to move forward.
In the interim, I would recommend that you start building your team for next year. Find those people who tell you they want your leadership, find out how they want to help, and start making plans.
However, try to fly under radar for now. The last thing you want to do is make this other person so angry that she decides to come back for one more year just to prove you wrong. The hardest part of this is walking that narrow line between "operating under radar" and "working behind her back". My best advice to offer there is that you try to avoid having her feel like your plans for next year are thwarting her plans for this year -- do your best to work with her, but know that the best is yet to come.
Hi! I am having yet another problem with our new President. She has managed to offend the only two parents that come to our PTO meetings or volunteer for anything for that matter. How do I handle this situation?? I have the parents calling me, or stopping me at the school to complain. She treats me worse than she does them. She has this little click with the treasurer and the past president, from 3 years ago. They basically feel it is their job to tell people what to do regardless of whether they are rudely interupting a conversation between them and a teacher. They told one parent she had to clean out the popcorn machine that the vice-president used the night before, and it was ten minutes before school was to let out. The parent had been there all afternoon to volunteer for the santa shop.She called me later to complain. (I wasn't there when it happened.) She has informed everyone that she won't be president next year, and the treasurer is moving away. They basically have told me in private that they don't care who they tick off as long as the stuff they need to get done gets done because they won't be here next year. Well, I have been told by many parents that they want me to be president next year and will nominate me, which is the only reason I am taking their stuff. How do I tactfully deal with this situation?? I still have 6 monthes of them being on the board?? We already have no parents coming to the meetings, most of their reasons are because of the president and treasurer. Help!!! :confused:
