My first thught was "can my daughter have that gift"? She would just love that. You put a lot of thought into it. As I read more, I thought "I'd snatch that woman bald headed". But that's not going to solve the problem.

No, she should have never said that noone wanted your daughter's gift. What a mean and cruel thing to do. Can you talk to the teacher and the principal? Express your concern? It's too late to change what happened, but may in the future this won't happen again.

I feel so sorry for your daughter. I'm not sure how I would explain to her the matters of mean people at such a young age.

I know that I haven't given you any help, but my heart does go out to you and your daughter.

Something awful happened to my kindergartner today and I am just curious as to how others would handle this situation.

Just last week she came home with a note from her class moms saying that they were going to do a grab bag at their class party. Each child was asked to bring a $5 gift for a child the same gender as themselves.

For starters when the principal got wind of this he was less then happy about it and called the teacher. It was too late to do anything about it and just wanted the class moms to know they should never do this again as it can lead way to all kinds of problems, such as kids that come with no gift and can't take part in the grab bag.

So I went out and spent $5 and bought a cute hair set that came in a glittery pouch with all kinds of fancy hair clips, scrunchies and the like. When my child came out of school today she was sad, I asked her what was wrong....she told me that one of the class mothers told her that no one wanted her gift and that she should just take it back and she put it in her backpack. When I got to the car and looked in her bag, sure enough, there was the gift. And the gift she got was a crappy toy from a dollar store.

I just cannot fathom how this class mother did this to my daughter. I guess it was my fault for not buying some piece of junk toy, but if I were in that situation I would have just taken the gift and not done that to a child ever! I want to take the dollar store crap she gave my kid and tell her we don't want it and she should keep it. I am sure she would be shocked by my behavior, yet she somehow thought it was okay to do to my 5 year old kid. Not to mention my time and money wasted or the lesson for the day for my child which was if someone gives you a gift and you don't want it just tell them you don't want it and give it back to them.

Now, my concern with handling the situation is that I am the PTO vice president. This woman just joined the PTO this year, she comes to meetings and wants to be involved. I have to give this woman a piece of my mind and make her understand that she used terrible judgement, but I don't want to run her off and make her no longer want to be involved.

So if this happened to you, what would you do?