I live with someone who is bipolar.. I'm wondering if perhaps she may have a depressive disorder?
Has anyone in these last two years tried to talk to her about her emotional reactions or has it only been discussions behind her back? If she is ill, then perhaps it may be the push she needs to seek help for it.
Either way this woman....woman?? SHe needs to grow up and accept that weither or not her ideas or comments were great or not she just did something most parents will never take the time to do. She came to a meeting, TALKED during a meeting, and got a response! SOme will love that much!
My thoughts were the same as most everybody else's on here, but I am wondering about something.
You said the lady gets upset when her ideas are discussed. Are her ideas bad, do they need tweaking, or is she not being taken seriously now since her initial crying session? Are her ideas thrown out completely or getting re-worked but in a manner and direction that didn't involve her input.
She might have not formulated her ideas well enough to present them, but she does anyway and then takes offense to how they are perceived. Maybe she needs someone to bounce her ideas off before she presents them to the PTO.
I wonder if she was claiming to quit if she didn't get her way or because she couldn't handle the stress of having her ideas shot down.
All,
I am sitting at my desk at work, laughing out loud while I read this thread.
We don't have criers at our meeting but there is one woman who turns every shade of tomato red imaginable when she speaks. She used to be our treasurer (and not a very good one at that).
Anyway, what we do have instead of a crier is a stalker. She will do anything and everything to be the center of attention for almost every fundraiser and event we sponsor. She will hound you by phone (both cell and land), leave one message after another and if she still doesn't hear from you, will drive over to your house with her son in tow and insist on 'helping'. She is sooooo very needy and sooooo looking for attention and recognition that it's pitiful. Getting back to the point of this thread, though, she also holds us hostage emotionally. No one really stands up to her, we all walk on eggshells around her... don't know why. Everything she touches turns to chaos. She is a hard worker but will sit and list all-the-things-she-does-for-the-school-and-how-tired-she-is..... Her heart is in the right place but the price we have to pay for her to participate is often too much to bear.
Her son moves on to a different school next year. The PTO can breath a collective sigh of relief.
Okay...this is from a first time cryer, although I have stomped my feet and pouted a few times. I get along and play well with others and have really never had a hard time speaking in front of people if that is my only option. I am a three year board member and for the first time... after helping present a new and controversal fundraising proposal that literally was left dying and bleeding on the table...I cried, I quietly :eek: sobbed and my chin wobbled all over the place. No idea where it came from and it wouldn't stop. I felt like a complete idiot...luckily we only had four people show up at our meeting but one was the principal who just bowed his head (you could tell he was wishing he was at a dentist office) and waited for the drama to end. I was nervous and extremely tense..and then mortified that this was happening. Perhaps if you have a person who does this habitually, someone could ask "the crier" to submit their ideas in writing ahead of time? That could take some of the stress about of presenting. They could also have a casual private meeting prior to the open meeting with a board member to share their views on the topic so that they don't have to state their opinions "in public". Give them a little break if they are nice, dependable volunteer...you have no idea what is causing this or where it is coming from...maybe they don't either. Or maybe ask them to take Valium with a strong shot of whiskey. I know that would have helped me but then I would have needed someone to drive me home...!
Well I guess we all have to have one. Ours is the same way that she wants her way or the highway which was the what she got until I came along. No one wanted to say to her that they didnt want to work with her they would just stop volunteering. Finally I had to nicely and politely say you can help but only if it was on specific tasks where she wouldnt be getting into peoples faces.
I had to laugh about the flyer incident we had a chairpersont that did this. The office people went hysterical when she left the office. :eek:
Cindy<br />
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