I agree this is not a PTO issue. She brought it up in PTO because we are the most involved parents and she wanted to test the waters. At our PTO meeting this week,she brought a slew of teachers who normally never come and announced the vote was in favor ofthe new dress code--well of course it was, when you skew the votes! I knew she was going to bring it up and I asked my officers, who are typically the only parents there, not to respond. Just let her have her say and move on. We are fighting this at the school board level now. I have never used PTO to fight this, nor have I acted like I represent PTO in this matter. Nor would I.
I have heard nothing about a plan to aid low income families, which state law requires,and we are 81% low income. One of the PTO members approached me about PTO helping out with this and I replied that first we need to wait and see how the school board responds (I am about 60% sure they are going to shoot it down) But if it passes, we would need to see the plan the office has for dealing with this and a proposal for them on what they want PTO to do. But as far as I'm concerned, this is the principal's mess and she is going to have to deal with it.
It's fairly clear that she has not thought this through, because she has addressed none of the things you have mentioned. And now she is going to have to go before the school board and answered all of those questions you posed, and more. And we have parents willing to go and speak about how much of a hardship this will be, including the parents of some disabled children. This is not over yet