I am sure that there are many things going on behind the scenes, but here's the points as I can se them...
- The current President was elected by the committee. She wasn't put in place by the Principal. She wasn't put into place against the Bylaws. She was properly elected and as such she is what your group has, for better or for worse.
If, at the time, the current members didn't want her or had an issue, then someone should have stepped up. It's a bit late now to complain about things...
2. Personally I agree with the idea that "every parent or guardian of a child attending the school, as well as each member of the professional staff, are automatically members of the PTO". But at the same time only members who attend the election meeting should have the right to vote. I can understand the President's concern. Not because she feels she won't be reelected, but because only active or attending members should be able to decide who will run the group, IMO.
3. If Bylaws need to be redefined it should be controlled by the President, or the committee should at least be led by the President. The Bylaws define how a group will be controlled, and it is the President's job to ensure that this document is updated properly. The idea of an outside person is odd and doesn;t seem needed, but at the same time it sounds as though you and a couple of others would have a problem with the President heading up the committee. Depending on the current Bylaws, that should not even be an issue. It is the President's responsibility to led that committee, or at least make sure that it is being done to the best interest of the group.
3. Whether or not they are "allowed" to have this outside lady rewrite the Bylaws is based upon your current Bylaws. My group's Bylaws state, which is quite common, that the Executive Board has complete control and authority or the group. That sums it up right there. If you current Bylaws, which you have a right to see, state something like this, then they are in charge and in control.
Ultimately the committee put them there. She, as president, is in charge. To now complain how she runs things is not fair to her. She's probably doing her best. If there are areas that she needs help with, maybe talk to her, or one of her officers, privately and offer suggestions on how it can be better. Maybe she needs help with communication, maybe you could take on the newsletter, maybe she needs helps increasing involvement, maybe you can take on volunteer coordination. The point is that she has the job, let her do it, within the Bylaws, yet help her make your group better.
Again, there may be much more going on behind the scenes, so my suggestions may be off because I don't know everything.
Either way, good luck and I hope it works out.
PresidentJim