Loud and opinion on everything: I think we all have at least one of them, this is up to the president to keep the meeting going. If this mom has been around for a while the board may be use to her and just let her do her thing.
I think you need to look at why you want to be involved, the truth is that you will probably not like or approve of everyone involved but what is more important. A group is often made of different personalities, different financial backgrounds, different political views, different ethnic groups BUT when the work is to be done it is up to each member to put their personal feelings aside to do the work for the kids. You don't have to be best friends...
As far as her outside reputation as long as she isn't doing it at school or at school events I am not sure you can do anything about it. You can't really control her outside, we all have issues that others don't know about and maybe volunteering is the one safe thing she has?
"When you stop learning you stop growing."
I agree that the woman needs to be put in her place to but not by the principal. The exec. board should be able to control their meetings and need to do so with this woman. Her reputation is not the issue, it's her disrupting meetings that needs to be addressed. If you want, I will come to your PTO meeting... I'm good at putting obnoxious parents in their place.
Agree with onthego...don't let some train wreck of a woman run you off from contributing to your kids PTO.
Just attended a PTO meeting for the first time. Won't attend any more.
Give up that easy, huh? It would be a cold day in heck before I told my children the reason I'm not involved in PTO is because "Paris Hilton won't let me."
Does you PTO offer childcare during meetings? Perhaps the "emotional wreck" child was bored and wouldn't you be an emotional wreck if mommy was drunk at your friend's parties?
There have been plenty of times when I wished for SOMEONE, ANYONE to show up to a meeting other than the officers and I would not have cared if they were naked toting a llama and consider a mom wearing a mini-skirt and toting a lap dog VERY minor. As far as I know, there aren't any PTO bylaws that dictate dress code. And if school policy dictates what parents can wear during after school hours, half the parents at our school wouldn't be at any event.
Sounds like the PTO Prez just needs to have better control of the meetings and who speaks when. If the parent shows up drunk to a meeting, get the principal involved. Until then, why not set an example of what you and others think appropriate social behavior is.
Does this parent help in any other ways? You mention her "reputation." Are there other things we don't know?
Wow - I'm thinking that someone needs to pull on their big girl panties and tell this lady what the boundries are. Not you necessarily but dogs at meetings and children running around? Not sure what the president sees as their roll in this but there ought to definitely be a discussion on the proper way to behave in meetings and what the "decorum" is. Sounds like your Principal may have to step in if there are dressing issues (now if you don't like her mini skirts but they are still "legal" oh well, not much you can do about that). But I'm thinking a discussion re: the issue is in order with the president...d
Just attended a PTO meeting for the first time. Won't attend any more. One PTO board member is unbearable--her accessories include: an emotional wreck of a child, Paris Hilton dog in arms, mini-skirts, a loud-mouth and an opinion for everything. This woman also showed up drunk with her children to another child's birthday party and wolfed down all the free food she could find and drank beer-glass sized mixed drinks. It appears that no one on the PTO has the guts to remove her, and her awful reputation is jeopardizing the reputation (and membership) of the PTO.
Is this typical of private school PTOs? Any advice? :eek:
