Clara hit the nail on the head:
'It is a trademark of bullies to push the limits and then when confronted they will say, what? I was only asking a question, offering a suggestion, yada, yada, yada. They then take on the roll of victim, despite all their bad behavior.' you risk making yourself look bad if you take her on in a manner which might not be looked upon kindly by your peers. public school equals non discrimination. i think you do have a bully in your midst. BUT by experience i can tell you that the ONLY way to reduce her involvement is with the assistance of the head of school . check yuor shcool board policy manual,,,,,the PRINCIPAL has say over who comes on the grounds to volunteer. she can set guidelines as to frequency, duration, etc. do NOT try to kick the person out on your own as a PTO officer, it has to be done thru admin or you are looking at possible backlash...BULLIES are EXTREMELY clever at gaining the sympathy of parents, and VERY GOOD at making themsleves look to be the victims...they are prima deceivers and can con even principals and supers and BOEs,,,even juries......get your principal involved or just grin and bear it.
Is a person who is at the school every day, too involved? Is a person who volunteers for every event too involved? Is a person who says, anything you need please let me know, too involved?
A parent signs up for every event, is that a problem? Psychology...what does it matter to someone why the person is there helping? Just because someone is dedicated to their children do not mean that there's something crazy with them, does it?
Sometimes I think it should state that in order to get involved with PTA/PTO you need a degree in psychology. Sometimes it does not seem to be enough that you want your child's school to be the best that it can be.
My only advise to you would be to take on issues as they arise. It's kind of like coffee, the longer it brews the stronger it gets!
We have had similar issues with some of our parents. I would caution you though on how you take up your issues. It is a trademark of bullies to push the limits and then when confronted they will say, what? I was only asking a question, offering a suggestion, yada, yada, yada. They then take on the roll of victim, despite all their bad behavior.
All relationships take two people so as long as you are treating others with respect while adressing the issues you will hopefully get your resolution to the problem and still be able to be proud of your acomplishments.
Hang in there, she may not be all that bad. At least she is volunteering. All of our drama makers don't volunteer for some reason. They just sit on the sidelines and criticize all we do. Go figure!
There is a parent in our school that volunteers for everything and anything. She has her hands in everything. I want her gone. It's not that shes a bad person but every committee shes on, something goes run and theres always drama. How do I tell her that PTO doesn't want her? I can't stand to work with her anymore because shes so involved. What should I do?
