I should have mentioned that she is our treasurer.In some capacity everyone has to work with her. She does a good job of keeping our funds straight. One part of the problem is she has trouble spending money on things that she doesn't like, eventhough the board has the items in the annual budget.She will be rude, and try find reasons not to dispurse money.
Since she doesn't want to make any changes, and it apparently doesn't bother her that she upsets people, I would (now remember this is me talking and I have quite a strong personality myself...lol) make an announcement at the next meeting, something to the tune of "and if you think you can work with what-ever-her-name-is without getting your feelings hurt, we have this task for you to do". Or something along those lines...lol... I'd try to make light of it while letting everyone know how the score stands. It should get a laugh, even from what's-her-name. It also lets everyone know that YOU know how hard it is to work with her, as well as maybe finding someone willing to work with her. Otherwise, I'd just kind of dance around her.
My husband says if she gets a lot of work done, you definately want to keep working with her. You put people with her that can take orders without getting their feelings hurt. This way you are going to utilize her abilities to the highest extent and show her that she is appreciated. If she is just a nasty lump, then she is just getting in the way. Dump her.
I am a co-president of an elementary school PTO. I am having a difficult time with the PTO board. There is one member inparticular who is making things difficult. She has a very strong personality. I have tried to speak to her and told her that she talks to harshly to the other members, and her responce to me was "I know that I am not nice, but at least you know where you stand with me. I'm not changing for anyone" No one wants to work with her. She is making it very difficult to conduct business. I spend alot of my time consoling other members because of her outbursts. We have offered meditation services to her and those that she has had disputs with and she refuses. Any advice?
