Right now I'm trying not to let the VP get my sprits down and lose all hope as she has. If I didn't need her help so much, do I dare admit I would ask her to just step down or step away?

I am completely comfortable with the fact this whole situation of disbanning is in the hands of the membership-- not mine. Even the Principal agrees. She hates to see a PTO go but she is fustrated with the teachers for their lack of involvement and yet understands time etc.

I have decided to cancel the schedualed spell-a-thon and playing it by ear for the other fundraiser planned.

On the flip side, I'm feeling great and Doc says we both are looking good!
Besides I have 18+ years with this school and as long as the current Principal and staff are there I'm sure my phone number will never get lost! [img]smile.gif[/img]

Last year our PTO Pres. of eight years resigned. I myself had previously resigned as PTO pres at another school(long story) the year before. I was interested in maybe being vice -pres. The only other person interested in holding office was also interested in VP. Someone came up with the great idea of Co-Pres's. So there we were duely elected. As it turned out the Last Pres had not been very active at all. There were few if any PTO sponsored activities and money decisions were made by the principal. Volunteers were classroom based. My co-pres turned out to be a kindred spirit. Our philosophies were very similar. We really clicked! Last year we two were the PTO. Because of that we did not attempt anything big but focused on promoting the PTO thru communication. A newletter, an e-mail address, a phone list( we had a whole 20 names from a school of 640).This year we have 100! I guess what I am attempting to say is that keep the faith, your efforts do count and make a difference even if it's only to your child. If the worst does happen and you are disbanned I am sure you will still be an involved active parent in the ways that will continue to make a difference. Besides, things do happen for a reason in the grand scheme of things. Maybe there is a new group out there waiting for you. There was for me!

[img]smile.gif[/img] You know K C- you just said what my husband said but in more fourum friendly words!! This isn't the first time I have been thrown into a ball of yuck and the last time I came out with a great baby boy and some of my wits. Maybe this January meeting should be ran by the VP since she is the one that feels so strongly.

Huh, stepping back, what an idea!!!
I did get the miracle I was hoping for! The srcretary had a change of heart!!! YEAH!!

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Everyone around me is giving up, I'm having a baby in March and not sure how much more I can fight before my Doctor starts in on me.
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You cannot do it all yourself. With a baby on the way, you cannot do most of it yourself.

Ask yourself this: in a few weeks, you will have to suspend your activities, and what will happen then? Now, why not just let it happen now?

I could point out that your body is a bubbling cauldron of hormones right now, and between the normal stresses of life and this additional stress your emotions are on edge. The whole situation may very well be not nearly so bad as it looks to you right now. So what -- you've got a baby on the way, and you MUST do what is best for that baby and for your family.

If the whole thing will fall apart without you, then it is going to happen soon enough. Why make yourself sick in the meantime? Let it fall while you are still capable of assisting those who might step in to try and catch it. Miracles? I'm all out, but you've got the miracle of life going on and that should be your primary focus.

Perhaps harsh advice, but I guess that is the brand I'm dispensing today.

Not much better news on this front. My secretar has come outta hiding to put in her resignation. We are not offically disbanning yet but in my VP's head we already have.

The Asst. Princ. did tell me he will be at the meeting to make sure I'm not accused of bringing this up or it doesn't turn personnal. No one wants to see it go but it's December and we have two board members with the others foot going out the door.
I've been here for four years, on the board for three, folks I really don't know how much fight I have in me.....
As far as getting this home to parents 75% of what we send out actually makes it to the bags, how many parents get it and the ones that read it is enough to make me sick.

Everyone around me is giving up, I'm having a baby in March and not sure how much more I can fight before my Doctor starts in on me.
At our first meeting the Prez from last year publicly embaressed me and made a mockery of the meeting. The parents at this first meeting never came back--20 parents have not come back......how am I suppose to feel about that. She sat there and laughed at me.......
I'm sorry, just really need a miracle right now. :confused:

Well, the same thing happened last night at our meeting. Two parents attended, that's it. Talk of dispanning came up and well, I'm really nervous. The discussion began with the school board asking for a report from the school's committees and I began to mention lack of attendance and interest from paretns and teachers and my concern how this may effect our next fundraiser. The VP then stepped in a asked for the board to consider dispanning the group altogether. That load of bricks did hurt everyone in the room when she said that! Anyway, we were asked to talk about it some more.
I feel like I've been told my best friend has cancer but we don't know if it's terminal or not.

Of course as irony would have it the positive person for gossip and the neg. person for gossip were the only two parents there and that disscuion went well but of course I was asked why I want to do this. I don't but I can't do this all myself and the neg.person was the one last year that made it very clear she didn't want me to call her for anything ever! So I haven't and now being told "I would have been more than happy to help!" The pos. gal I have also served in the board with and has seen this coming. She agreed that we shouldn't have to do all this on our own and reminded the other gal when I have needed help I mention it at meetings and in the newsletter AND let the office staff know so if they are asked they do take a name etc for me.

We are sending out a special edition of our newsletter in Jan. including an e-mail address for parents to respond to. Also the Asst. Princ. is going to see if the school student paper will do an interview with me as this will take away funding for a few programs and assistance we offer the 6th grade for a large feild trip they do in the spring.
Is there anything else I should do? I want the PTO to stay but can't be the only one to carry this! The board can't and doesn't want to dispan us but if it is what the membership wants then....
I can sure use any support at this time, I really feel like I have failed.
Thanks for listening,
Tina :confused: