Wow!
My head is spinning from just reading the list -- I can't imagine what it would have been like to be at the meeting. In all seriousness, though, you have definitely flagged a few things that shouldn't be happening. Because you are new, we can't say why things are happening this way. It could be misunderstandings, lack of knowledge or inexperience of the current board.
Luckily, we have tons of information on this site that should help you.
You can search the site by category. For example, if you want to learn more about bylaws, you can search our short cut "Bylaws'' at the bottom of the page. In that category, we have articles such as:
How to Write Bylaws
www.ptotoday.com/pto-today-articles/arti...-to-write-pto-bylaws
10 Key Points About Your Bylaws.
www.ptotoday.com/pto-today-articles/arti...-points-about-bylaws
You can also check out our File Exchange, which is really a treasure trove of stuff, much of which has been submitted by parents, that contains templates and other documents to help with bylaws, financials and other group management issues:
www.ptotoday.com/pto-today-articles/arti...-points-about-bylaws
Also keep posting questions here as well as on our Facebook page,
www.facebook.com/ptotoday, to engage with other parents.
Good luck!
Rose C
Community Manager