Oh boy. This is such a slippery slope. PTAs and PTOs leaders should educate themselves about financial practices and maintaining 501(c)(3) status before voting to spend money on anything that does not directly relate to the purposes and goals of the organization. The IRS is very, very picky in this regard.
In California, where I am currently president of an elementary school PTA, the CA State PTA specifically states how funds can be used, especially when it comes to things such as hospitality and volunteer appreciation. I highly recommend checking your state PTA toolkit for details when making financial decisions like this. For California, you can read some detail here:
www.capta.org/sections/communication/dow...teerAppreciation.pdf
It also should be noted that if you have a fundraiser and advertise that you are raising money for something specific, such as playground equipment or classroom supplies, you MUST use those funds for those items ONLY. If you are collecting long-term for an expensive project, carryover funds must be reported in a specific way. Be careful!
If you are a PTA or PTO connected to a public school, PLEASE work closely with your site admin and school district when it comes to funding large purchases or paying for the salary of school site employees. Are you SURE your district is not required to pay for these items? When it comes to technology, are you positive the items you are purchasing are compatible with your district's IT setup? What about repairs, maintenance, or replacement of such items? What about when the tech becomes obsolete? Who takes care of that? If you purchase the items and do not have the district involved, they may disallow them altogether. That happened in our district. A school purchased over $20,000 in Wi-fi tech, and the district refused to install it. It's been a year and a half and the items are still sitting in boxes in a storage room, which is not only a shame for the students but a complete waste of donations made. Shameful.
Read your toolkits/materials from your state PTA orgs. Be familiar with IRS restrictions and requirements. Work jointly with your site administrators and school district. As non-profit group leaders, you have a fiduciary responsiblity to your members and to the students you serve to administer your funds in accordance with your group's purposes and goals and to the law.
That all said, spending money on training for your leaders should ABSOLUTELY be part of your budget. You cannot live up to your responsiblities as a leader if you don't know what you're doing.