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Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart to with her. You could go about it in a way that is non-confrontational ... just like we do with our kids: Talk about the behavior you have observed, "I noticed that we have these deadlines coming up for x and you have not been able to get to them.." then ask for her input on how you might rectify the situation so you can make your group successful.
Also, could you put a system into place that removes you from the position of constantly having to follow up and edge her along? Like set up a deadline calendar together and suggest that you have an agreement that if you can't meet a deadline or commitment that you have back-ups you can contact..
Jewel's idea of getting other committee members to step up is a good one too. I think you just need to be careful that the whole situation doesn't fester and get the best of you. You want to have fun and do a good job and if you enable your co-chair's behavior by not talking to her about it, you are just going to feel resentful. Here is a great article on how to deal with difficult people (because even nice people are difficult). www.ptotoday.com/pto-today-articles/arti...ith-difficult-people
Let us know what you decide to do. We are rooting for you!
I suggest that you delegate to board members other than the co-president and/or committee heads since the co-pres has demonstrated that she is not dependable and doesn't share your understanding of urgency and deadlines. Give her tasks that will only have minimal impact if not done and consider that she is "co-president" in name only and not in deed.
I have been elected as co-president of the PTC at my son's school this year. My co-president is a very nice person, however she is not helping at all. She volunteers to take on tasks and she never follows through. I end up picking up the slack. There was a period of time a couple of weeks ago where I was out of town for 2 days. I asked her to follow up on a couple things and to respond to emails/phone calls...she did neither. She never has a reason...she just states that "she hasn't done it yet." I'm becoming very overwhelmed and very frusturated. How should I proceed? I don't want to hurt her feeling, but I NEED help!