I am on the other side of this problem...I have been a board member for 5 yrs, the pres for 3(though not very active), VP for 2 and sec for 2. As the only stat at home mom, I did almost all of the organizing, calling, shopping, etc. This yr the VP and Pres said they don't feel included, like I control everything. They are more available to help now, and want to take over everything. I'm more than willing to share the load! LOL. But at the same time I have a relationship with our Bookfair Rep, Fundraising Rep, Santa Shop Rep, etc. These guys want me to call and set stuff up and then they will run it...I think they should call and set stuff up and develop their own relationships with these people. We need to all learn to work together..we are great friends outside of school, but when school issues come up it's always "you called her and not me" "I didn't know about it", etc. Try the meeting with the principal each week, it really does help!

Sounds like you really need to have a sit down, and include the principal if you think that would be helpful. You need to take a stand and lay it all out, what is expected of everyone, what everyone's duties are, etc. You can't do your job if you don't know what's going on, and the VP is usurping your position. I think you need to be really clear about what you expect and that the behavior that has been going on will not be allowed to continue. If you take a strong leadership stance, hopefully she will back down. It's hard enough doing your job without working against others who are supposed to be helping, so don't tolerate it any longer. Get the rest of the board behind you and the principal if you can, maybe have a meeting with just them beforehand you so you can lay out your concerns before you confront the VP.

Have you considered having weekly meetings with your principal? I used to do that when I was president. It might be nice to include the vice-president, just to keep everyone happy, but that is really your option. This way you would be right on top of what's going on, hopefully. Your meeting wouldn't have to be long and could possibly be done on the lunch hour or first thing in the morning. You could have your list of concerns or ideas ready each week and this way you might feel more "in the loop". Good luck--
SHC

I am the President of the PTO. Last year when I was voted in we had Co-Presidents, Co-Vice Presidents, etc. Last year one secretary and one vice president moved and the Co-President quit due to a PTO problem involving the Principal. Since then we are walking on egg shells between each member because no one wants to hurt each others' feelings. I am not at the school during the day as I work during the day. Two other board members also work. We joined to be involved with our children's school. Our Vice President does not tell us about everything done at the school (she makes it a full time job most of the time) and includes the Co-President that quit along with a Co-Treasurer. The other members along with me do not feel included when we have events, meetings or fundraisers since we are not given all of the information. The Co-President and company do the board members job duties as well (ie. counting the money, shopping, typing up flyers, etc.). In place of quitting, please give me your ideas of what I should do. I do not wish to hurt anyone's feelings, but we have unsatisfied board members. Thanks!