Whiners don't hang around me too long. I don't give their whines any feedback. After awhile they usually stop. I basically ignore the complaints of 'how hard this is' or 'this is taking sooooo long' or the like. I may give a one-time "oh, it's not so bad... wait until you see the results/children's faces/teacher's faces..." but I only do that once. After that, I use my Grandmother's advice: It takes two to carry on about anything, good or bad. I just choose not to put up with it. She also felt that if you had time to whine and complain, you probably weren't busy enough... I use that advice too...lol...
I think that the whiners will continue to whine as long as you give some sort of reaction... quit reacting - I'll bet they quit whining...
No matter where you go or what you do you will always have the whiners, the know-it-alls, the THINK-they-know-it-alls, the detractors and other assorted PIAs. You just have to work around them. There was a good PTO Today article that dealt with this--I believe the material the article was based on was from a book that was titled "How to Deal with People You Can't Stand," or something like that.
Men Can Be--Yes, those people CAN be some of your strongest supporters. They can also be some of the most aggravating thorns in your side, and also prevent you from getting things done effortlessly, or at least without a lot of agita.
To be quite honest, I'm having a hard time lately worrying about others' feelings, especially since it seems no one cares about mine! I know--WAH WAH WAH--POOR ME.
(But it's so true!)
Men can be PTO presidents too.
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20 years 2 weeks ago#100646by Men can be PTO presidents too.
How do you handle such whiney parents while trying to be professional as a board member? I am a strong, upfront, woman and some of these women are so meek and cutesy its takes nothing to get their feelings hurt.These women are worried about breaking a fingernail while helping or maybe even break a sweat while working, they just get to me. I just smile and then go home and vent.
