Thanks for the encouraging words. I have come up with a "standard reply" to my phone calls that seems to be working. I tell them that change is hard and because everyone is used to the way that I did things...because I did them for way too long, that there is bound to be an adjustment period. I know all too well how the new officers feel because I was in their shoes for a while too. While I disagree with a lot of what is transpiring, that is just my own personal opinion and it does not mean that I have the right to undermine what this new group is trying to accomplish. I do know how people like to stir the pot so to speak and I refuse to be the spoon

Wow, I really feel for you. The same thing happened to me, although I wasn't as involved at our previous school as it sounds like you were. We didn't move, but we were "redistricted". Since I'm still so accessible, I get calls too. About all you can do is listen and sympathize. Don't try to stay involved with the "old" school -- it'll make you crazy.

Maybe you'll have the same experience I did. The first year was really hard, but it got easier as time went on and this year has been much easier.

Just be sure that you aren't the one making the calls to your old pals at the previous school! If things change and are not to your liking, that's life. Do the best you can in your new school! They can benefit from your past experience.

I say get involved in the new school where are now and let the other go. I know that it is easier said than done, especially when you put your heart into something, which is what i think that we all do to some degree.
Just tell them that you are involved with the new district and really don't have the time or energy to give to something that you can't change. JMHO

I am a former 4 year PTO President and VP one year before that. I moved out of district over the summer. I guess the new board is trying to make sweeping changes and are breaking the bylaws right and left. Of course now I start getting calls from furious members wanting advice. So far I only tell them to read their by-laws and let the new officers know that they cannot do some of the things they are doing. Our school district's super had always tried to take over our PTO and dictate to us what we should do. The other PTO's in the district caved and gave in while I fought it tooth and nail, now the woman (probably doing the happy dance that I am gone) is scooting right on in. It does irritate the heck out of me...but I no longer have anything to do with it. Sad thing is that I do miss the school and so do my kids, but I do not want to be involved, but I can't help myself but to listen to what is going on!! I did read the "letting go" article...and I have not left them holding the bag, I have made myself available to them whenever they needed help. But it is so hard!!