Before this thread becomes a hollering match, I'm going to close it.

And while I don't necessarily agree with unregistereds total tone, I do think she makes a good point. I don't see anything to gain by posting negative things here that can be traced back to your own school. It can really only cause problems -- not solve them -- to post the laundry here for all the world to see.

Absolutely come here for help with sticky issues, but -- on those issues -- make every effort not to connect them to a particular school. Hurt feelings and arguments and more because of a post on a cyber bulletin board do very little to help you help your school and your kids.

Tim

I understand this is a board to "vent" but really, if you can't tell the person directly you are upset, then should you really list your name, who you are upset with, the school you are from and the VERY small town it is located in and then to try to cover it up when people get upset by saying it is just "venting". That sounds alittle like an excuse for very inappropriate behavior. And while I appreciate other people's postings...in no way is it a "snitch" or "tattletale", it is simply people using the site for the same reason's everyone else does. And to see such hurtful, out-right untruthful things that someone from your school has never uttered to anyone else is a hard pill to swallow. SO pardon us if we don't agree with acting like the Elementary School children we are trying to help. And by the way...when you post about your children's school do you think that might be trying to cause trouble where there is none? Communication is the key and my advise is for you to actually COMMUNICATE!

from the "snitch/tattletale"

I too came under fire a few years ago for "venting". There was a member of our board who was out to get me and even went as far as to print out every message I had ever written on here. Needless to say, there weren't many that she could use against me, and the ones she did were so minimal in my opinion that her actions did little. The people I was complaining about already knew how I felt, so there was nothing new to learn. But I did learn a valuable lesson. I even wrote about it here. I warned everyone about it. I think we need to keep reminding ourselves and our fellow posters that this IS VERY PUBLIC and it should be taken with a grain a salt. We all like to vent, and this is the best way I know of.

I know that at times, I have regretted using my name (instead of some catchy acronym like kmamom or serendipity) and I also do not make it a secret to anyone that I post here. It wouldn't be all that hard to find out who I am, considering the details I've often provided about myself. But as long as you speak truth, then that will be on your side. If anyone DOES take issue, it's because the truth can hurt. It doesn't make it any less true. Slander is only slander if it's not truthful and you name names.

C--what a bummer! Try not to take it to heart--no one is perfect, and we're all entitled to have our feelings AND to share them. If someone caused trouble for you--shame on them.

I do worry from time to time that I'll be "found out," but I realized that if I were and it was to become an issue, the things I post here are real feelings and opinions, and stories as truthful as I can recall them. I just don't care to air them to the involved parties directly because I pick my battles, and some are either too small or too big. I try to post here only the things I would say to the involved parties IF I were pressed to.

I agree with Metzy 100%. To be honest with you, this is not the only message board I am on and I say what I feel because that is why I am here. If someone didn't like what you said, could it have been because they didn't like that you had a whole bunch of strangers agreeing with you? I have found that when people feel you are talking about them on these sites that other people sympathize with you is what bothers them the most because it points out to them that more than one person disagrees with them. As for posting under a false name or whatever, I think that's kinds of childish. If you want help, ask as yourself-don't hide to try not to hurt someone's feelings. This site is to help us deal with Parent Group issues not parent trip issues. If you want my opinion or advise or sympathy, don't ask as an unregistered user hiding out, ask as yourself with honesty and openness and I will tell you exactly what I would or have done-honestly.