Either that, or make sure there are NO witnesses, and pop her one in the mouth!

Seriously though, I'd like to hear some takes on this also--I've got a couple of PIAs who think they are scary smart, and are NOT afraid to tell you that what they think is the ONLY right answer (or when what you think or do is NOT in keeping with their philosophies). I manage to be polite--but BOY--talk about just a little stress in keeping my mouth shut! [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Good Witness List (not any particular order):
1. Principal
2. Asst. Principal
3. Group Vice Pres.
4. Group Treasurer
5. Lead Office Secretary
6. Any Chairman of any committee

Pick your witness carefully. You want someone who is fair and impartial. You do not want your best buddy or hers. Remember to always have a witness when speaking with her and to always have a witness when she wishes to speak with you. I know of what I speak. It may seem like 'too much', but I assure you it is for the best.

Explain that the school has rules and that it is important that the parent group members, especially the officers, follow the rules. This includes cussing, the way one dresses, the way one approaches problems or issues, etc.

Offer her a chance to abide by the rules or step down. Be firm. Do not be apologetic. You are not 'sorry' for her behavior, however it is up to you, as the new pres, to make sure everyone conforms.

Do this immediately. Do not wait until the Fall.

Good Luck!

Was she elected or appointed? I guess either way, I think the best approach is the direct approach. Kindly pull her aside and address your concerns. Let her know that as a board member, people will be looking to her as an example and that she represents your group. Do not do this in front of other people but do have another person with you, as a witness. She may not even realize this is a problem. (You'd think she would but you'd be surprised what some people find acceptable)

I will be the new president for the coming year and are having trouble with the future secretary. Not only is she difficult but she has cusses in front of my children. The last straw was having her yelling at me in front of the office staff, teacher, and students. How do you handle this stituation? Do you allow her to stay on the board or replace her?