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How to cope with difficult board member

20 years 6 months ago #71078 by C. Brooks
Replied by C. Brooks on topic RE: How to cope with difficult board member
I can see the Parent Group Survivor right now, Tim would be the lead guy who gets to tell everyone they are history! :cool:

O.k. <help>, what grade is this parent in? I would definately tell someone you were physically threatened. Now she is laying herself on the poor VP. What will happen to the VP when she/he does something to upset the sec?

Someone on this board has a great Code of Conduct for Board Members. I downloaded and passed it along to our future pres and she is thinking of using it. It has goals and expectations of how people are expected to act. Perhaps who ever posted that one (I really wished I could remember!)will come forward and can give you some helpful advice.
20 years 6 months ago #71077 by mykidsmom
Part of me has another suggestion for the gum ;) the other part wishes for you an easier way to just ask for her resignation. You really don't need this. No one does.

One gal that is gone now but she would bring her husband to her meetings or one of the people from the "Menzy Mom's list". I was told that their were a few members that were just terrible and it helped but it also made THEM look bad when they decided to "act-up".

You keep doing what is in the best interest of your children, that is a no brainer! When I was pregnant with my son, I had a hard time with the Prez (I was the Secretary) and he is now almost 4 and STILL doesn't like her!!!! Kids know. They see and pick up on more then we want to think about sometimes!!!

I wonder what she would do if you told her "You can be replaced!" [img]smile.gif[/img] ;) Just keep your by-laws close and if you haven't, it maybe good to give the Principal a heads-up (rumor/gossip/damage control).

Hang in there, we are all survivors :D

Wouldn't THAT be a show! HHHMMMMMM
20 years 6 months ago #71076 by kmamom
I offer my services to get awful people from other schools into line--I have a LOT of pent up attitude readjustments that I'm not allowed to mete out within my school :D . Believe me, if I could help relieve someone else's agony with a nightmare, I'd do it in a heartbeat! Sort of like a mediator with an attitude!

Seriously though,<help>--I'm not sure I understand what happened this last time. Are you saying that this woman threatened you? In a shed? Or are you (I hope!) joking? I'm understanding that you had some sort of mediation where you both stated your side, but what was the outcome other than being "professional?" What's the repurcussion for not being "professional?"

This woman has to be crazy if she has a problem with you and your family steering clear of her. What does she expect--high-fives in the hallway? I wish one person would chime in with her experience with someone who felt they had the right to tell her how to handle her kids--Bertha! She's got a pain on her hands too!

Does your school have some sort of code of conduct in print? If it does, that could take some of the discipline off you--the principal should be enforcing that, and letting her know that if she can't muzzle the cursing she'll have to step down. For now I'd talk to the VP, and ask her what she thinks, and how she'd feel comfortable handling it. I'm for getting that one off the board if you could have your way. All it takes is one a-hole like that to ruin everyone's good time, and why should that one person's feelings be so much more important than everyone else's?
20 years 6 months ago #71075 by <Help>
Replied by <Help> on topic RE: How to cope with difficult board member
Thanks for all the advice, but here is the latest. The old board called a meeting with the new secretary, an outside person, and myself. We both got to state our view. When it came to the part that the new secretary cornered me in the shed and also told me to meet her on the playground for her to beat me up, she of course did't do it. But that is not what makes me mad. It is the fact that she feel she should have a right to have a say what my husband and I do with our children. She was saying that it was wrong for my family to stay away from hers. Which is ok, but my children were present when she cussed and also yelled at me. So we agreed to try to be professal, but I really don't see it happening. I am worried all the wait is going to fall on the VP. Which is not fair. The new secretary has already stated if she could deal with the VP and not me. So should I let it be and see what happens or do something? What should I do?
20 years 6 months ago #71074 by mykidsmom
OH YEAH kmamom! My luck the Menzy's mom posse would be coming around the corner just as the fist hits and my only defense I can't take her anymore!

OH! Offer her Orbit gum, I hear it "cleans" a dirty mouth!!

Seriously, Menzy Mom has it. You know, you do have the right to do a recall election in the fall.....Meantime, she needs to be told or gum, lots of gum. Gum that tastes like soap.
20 years 6 months ago #71073 by C. Brooks
Replied by C. Brooks on topic RE: How to cope with difficult board member
kma- Will you come to my kids school? [img]tongue.gif[/img]

My advice is tell her you don't appreciate her attitude, that could: make her too mad to want to be around you OR make her think before she speaks. And as far as the kids tell her you will have them to go get the soap to clean her potty mouth. Ok just tell her you don't like your kids exposed to such talk and you would really like it if she would tone it down.
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