Does your school or district not have any kind of program to help needy families?

I wouldn't take it to heart. When you have your meeting make extra time for this topic so everyone can have their say, that way she can get a feel of everyone's feelings first hand. This is a stressful time of year. She probably didn't mean this comment malicous, just poor choice of words for something she had been talked into. Since the change of mind in a year she probably has had someone pressuring her about it.

hi...I have one that I can say that I never have seen on here. As president of our PTO I was approached by the school nurse, and home liason about our group giving donations to a project that gives xmas to 12 needy families in our school(there are 357 families). THey decided who was in need and then the staff does all the donating of presents for the kids. we were being asked to donate money/gifts for the parents.Our group has never went this way with anything, all of our community projects involvee local senior citizens and it doesnt require money. Well anyways when I mentioned this to some parents in the group they got highly upset and said no thats not our place.You have to understand that our school has a 36 percent poverty level and there are many families in our group that could use help. Which i may add last year a little boy had cancer and our principal told us that we cant do for one and not another. She also told us last year not to even consider looking at this family project. So yesterday I meet with my principal before next weeks general meeting and asked her her feelings about it, i thentold her the response that i had received from the parents and even staff meembers i talked to. She got very upset and responded that she always thought that she would be able to depend on our group when it was needed. I told her I didnt appreciate this comment, that she has never showed a interest in doing anything like this. That the believe has always been that we needed to stay away from that area. The more I think about it the more upset I get because of her comment. she alos told me that another local school's pto has done it for years and have a fundraiser for it. i told her if we wanted to do that next year great but that our budget is set and no where did we tell anyone that funds their child raised would help another family directly. Am I wrong, i know it sounds like we dont care but every penny we earn we always do things for the kids...we dont charge for any of our family 7 nights , have monthly contests, hire djs, pay for pictures, and on and on. Should I be hurt by her comment???Also if your school does do things like this can you give me advice on how to kick it off next year...