If it helps any, we actually watched a mom volunteer herself rightout of my son's room last year! She went overboard as to bleach EVERYTHING in the room with no permission from the teacher. The kids returned from specials to grab coats and leave because the fumes were so awful! And she had a habit of picking on the boys, she has one daughter. Nothing malitious but I knew when she was in class because my son would always bring home everything they were to do in class as homework but wouldn't do that on days she didn't come in.
I agree you did the best thing possible and hopfully this is also felt by the teachers! That's how this other mom hasn't been asked to help in the room this year! The teachers talked!

you did the right thing, this year as part of our new volunteer orientation the principal covered that if you are volunteering and see a discipline problem get a staff member or call the office. even as subs in the building we are not allowed to touch the kids at all. that includes grabbing them by the arm, sorry fact is that the older kids know this and if they are acting out they will tell you too...

Library mom, you did the right thing. Make sure you follow up on this situation to make sure your children stay out of her way. I sometimes feel like one person's concerns get lost in busy schools and if no one else says anything it is more likely to happen.

You did the right thing and hopefully the principal will handle the situation. It is important to let them know about it. Unless people come forward when something happens a stop will never be put to it.

Back at the begining of the school year when Moms signed up to be class moms, there were some Moms we rejected due to known bad behavior on their parts or the fact that they are lousy mothers. One of the most heavily weighed matters in this regard for us is do you trust this parent to be responsible for other children on a class trip.
In one case a mom we rejected is a completely negligent mother who allows her 3 year old to freely roam the neighborhood alone. The police have returned the child to the house on at least 2 occasions that we know of, if she doesn't watch her 3 year old then we certainly can't expect her to watch other people's children.

While teachers & the school certainly need all the help they can get, they certainly do not need anyone who is not going to be nice to the children or have their best interests at heart as a volunteer.

Lastly, I would go one step farther and voice my concerns to the teacher and see what she has to say. Good Luck!

I've been around her w/o kids around and yes she does have the same attitude. She talks about some of the kids in the class and is not very nice, so I don't think that she was just having a bad day. Her kids are the ones who sit ram rod straight in chairs and don't move any muscles, must make straight As etc. I feel she's too hard on them, but that's not my business.

Yes, there were 2 other mothers in the back of the room and I know one did see it, but I do not know her name or anything. The other one I'm not sure if she seen it or not. Maybe I'll ask when I see her again. Two of the teachers were in front of the room and one may have seen it, but I'm not sure. As far as the comment about the coco, there was 4 other people in the room besides her.

I know that our teachers need all the help in the classrooms that they can get, but at what cost.

Saying something was definetely the right thing to do. I applaud you for your ability to hang back to the next day. I probably would have said something to her that day (nicely) or to the teacher immediately. I wouldn't feel bad if I were you. Saying something then and there could have caused more problems. It scares me that if she feels it is appropraite to treat someone else's child like that, how does she treat her own children? Most of us are a bit more careful with someone else's child.