dwiant,
First off, you are doing the right thing! Slow down, take a breath, and take things one step at a time. You will definately get there!
Pals is right that you do not need a lawyer to draft by-laws or apply for 501c3.
However, when you do apply for 501c3, you will need to include your groups Articles of Organization with your application. The AoO is just IRS-speak for qualified by-laws, or Charter or Constitution. The IRS requires several things:
1. The organization’s name and where it operates.
2. That the organization fulfills a purpose under 501(c)(3) – PTOs do.
3. Net earnings do not provide individual benefit\
4. No political activism on any level
5. Dissolution statement – that if the org dissolves, it’s assets will be allocated to a different 501(c)(3) or public (Govt) organization that meets the same purpose.
There are good examples of wording in IRS Pub 557. It is a large and daunting publication, but it contains 98% of what you need.
To show that it is doable, please let me refer you to a presentation my group put together that describes the process from soup (applying for an EIN) to nuts (IRS approval!) and beyond (spplying with the state - well, at least our home state).
The file is on our web site at:
www.macarthurschool.com/pto.htm
and then click on the "Guide to getting Non-Profit/Tax Exempt for a PTO" on the right hand side. You could also look at our charter (which is an IRS-approved example of the wording).
And of course, keep asking questions on the PTO Today message boards!