Question: VP going behind my back to the principal

I'm a new president and we are doing a fundraiser where we are asking local businesses to sponsor the event. I types up a sponsor request letter and planned on young up the receipts at the end of the event when I had a full account of who had donated etc. my intent was to do this on school letterhead. The VP knew this because she verbally attaked me over my wording in the letter, and I then explained the receipt plan. I was sick for Two days and not I'm the school, she approached the principal with her donation form/receipt plan and was told that I'd have final approval. I'm so angry that she chose too do this, the form itself isn't bad but she can't make those decisions without consulting anyone else. Plus it makes it seem like I had no receipt plan in order, when I did and she knew it. This us not the first time that she had done something like this and isn't content with her VP role. She wants to be Co presidents, and that's not the way it's set up. She continually steps on toes and us so aggressive that other board members and volunteers avoid her. I delegate, and have no problem accepting help, but this us over the lines with me. Help!

Asked by Anonymous

Answers:

Advice from PTO Today

Rose H writes:
Hi there,
I can understand your frustration. I'd suggest having a sit down with her to come to an understanding with each other. It's a perfect time to do it as the new school year is starting. Rather than address any hurt feelings over that particular donation letter, focus on moving forward. Ask her how she wants to work with you, how she likes to be kept up to date and exchange information. Let her know how you want to do those same things and come to an agreement about how to keep in touch -- emails, weekly meetings, whatever is going work for you two. Make clear what thing you need to see, what things you need to sign off on. If we give her the benefit of the doubt, she may not know how to work best with you and once you two put it on the table and know where each stands, you can hopefully move forward. You don't have to be best friends. But you do need to come to an accommodation so you can work together.

Rose

Community Advice

newpres33 writes:
I tried, it didn't go well. She tried to call a meeting and send unapproved forms home without telling me first. I'm at a loss, she doesn't understand that I have to approve these things first. She is so disruptive that two other board members are asking the principal how to get get to resign. This ahas gone downhill, and I dread working with her at this point. Am i responsible for telling her every decision I make? She seems to feel that if she's not personally involved in every minute decision it's an act of hostility.