Question: VP not following bylaws and being rude at meetings in front of parents.

Our VP is new this year. So far she has taken box tops even after she was told the volunteer coordinator was doing them. She is doing Campbell's soup labels but that doesn't seem to be enough. She was so extremly rude at our last meeting so bad that parents stayed behind when she left to ask what was wrong with her. I have sent her 2 emails trying to avoid a blow out. But she doesn't respond. I do know she was mad that some of the things other schools do can't be done at our school. Either because we don't have the econmic boosts that the comminities near by do or that the school won't let us do these things. I've explained that all to her many times. Everyone else is in agreement which seems to make her ever more hateful. I think this is such a waste of energy for someone to act like this. We are all volunteers and I feel like she wants to be a 1 women show instead of a board. I also had 2 parents after the last meeting say she needed to be voted out and that either one of them would be more than happy to take her place. Everyone else is so positive. I've tried emailing her and now feel like the only thing I have left is to call a board meeting. I'm hoping to solve this but feel like it will be more of a heated discussion. I don't see it ending well. I know I have to handle this before our big fandraiser this month. I don't want to divide the parents or teacher. I thought our job was to bring everyone together. What should I do??

Asked by Anonymous

Answers:

Community Advice

Micheleb writes:
You need to review your bylaws and be clear about the removal of an officer. She had to have been nominated and voted into that office so the same may be true to remove her. I think you should call a board meeting, to express the concerns of your board and the parents (without naming names) provided your board is voicing the same concerns, at which point you will know how you need to proceed. Don't allow the infection to take over the whole group!

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Karrissa writes:
Holding any position on a organization can be stressful. You should first prepare a presentation to bring to her attention. Maybe she is unaware of her own actions. Often people mistaken taking charge of things as helping out. Lighting the load when in fact they are stepping on toes. I would ask her if there is any way that you could meet her to discuss some concerns. After all don't we all need a little positive constructive mending from time to time. Then if all else fails meet with your organization to decide what action to take next. But remember to keep an open mind....

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MomMom13 writes:
Whatever you do, make sure you DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT your communications to her. Keep it factual and to the point; no hearsay, and have a witness with you whenever you speak with her. Our do-nothing VP just threatened to sue our PTO and made false claims that we violated her rights per the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) as a nonprofit trying to "fire" someone illegally. Unbelievable and totally bogus, but still not fun to be dealing with. Just make sure you follow your Bylaws to the fullest.