moorea;132458 wrote: Maybe I shouldn't be offended??
To answer the first part, we have a budget line item for what we call "Warm and Fuzzy". From a food standpoint, a lot of parents bake for it. We spend the line item dollars on additional things like plates/napkins/coffee/etc plus a couple times a year we get a little gift for each teacher ... a mug with coffee in it, a small box of chocolates, just something to say thanks, doesn't need to be big.
On the getting offended part ... I have a strong opinion on that so forgive me. Understanding that you can't be at the meetings to provide your input, there's nothing wrong with contacting a board member directly and voicing your concern and the reasons for it. I've found in my few years being on our board that parents just aren't informed about why or how we do what we do. Give them the chance to explain the choices they have made ... if they are like us, they will be more than happy to do it. As president, I've made very clear to our board, teachers, etc. that we have nothing to hide and are available to answer any questions, show our budget, etc.
If they can't come up with a good reason for something, then perhaps you have some more discussion on the topic.