I agree with everyone else in that these things are not typically a PTO endeavor.
However, what you now do with this is tricky. You see it all the time on these boards how a single person, often the Principal, can totally undermine everything that a PTO can do. Worse would be the Superintendant of Schools or the cities' School Committee, which seem to be the two entities that are expecting/wanting the various PTO's in your town to be involved in these ways.
To upset these individuals would be a very bad thing possibly. You may need to just stick with the status quo, whether your group feels it is correct or not. It's difficult.
Lets look at each concern individually...
1. Using PTO funds to print up bumper stickers, fliers, signs, and to purchase advertisements in the local papers that promote the school budget.
- This one bothers me the most. Not sure why the school budget needs to be advertised, unless there was a vote concerning it going on. The Superintendant/School Committee may have felt that the requested budget increase was very important to all of the schools in the town. And as such may have asked the Principal/PTO President to help support promoting the increase in an attempt to get it to pass. If this was a one time thing I could see possibly supporting it, as long as my group agreed, that it affected the students at the school (which a budget increase likely would) and that all of the other groups in town were supporting it as well.
2. Standing up en masse at school board meetings to say that the math curriculum set in place in the district shouldn't be changed, and denying parents who wanted a team of teachers and math specialists to investigate the curriculum a venue for their concerns.
- When you say "en masse" I wonder what that means? Reading between the lines it sounds as though the Principal or Superintendant knew that the topic was on the School Committee agenda and for a reason unknown was against the change. The key person likely contacted the PTO President, directly or through the Principal, to try to get the parental voice at the meeting. There defintely may be more to this going on behind the scenes that possibly only the Executive Board would be aware of.
3. Supervising building plans with the superintendent for construction projects worth millions of dollars.
- Actually, in many ways I like that the Superintendant wanted to include the PTO Executives. Why not try to have a voice of the community involved in building plans. And if a Superintendant is trying to find parental input the place to go is to the most active parents, the PTOers. And truth be told, the ones that are usually the MOST active are the ones that take on responsibilities such as Executive Board positions.
I'm sure that the Superintendant wasn't asking the PTO Presidents whether or not the foundation should be 10 feet deep or 15 feet deep. More along the lines of general layout, access, classroom size, etc.
It's possible that this is a city requirement, to have parental inclusion, and by going this route the Superintendant covers the req.
So, overall I would venture that there is a lot of background information that a non-Executive member would not be privy to. There may be a reason why the Superintendant was against the change to the math curriculum, and she likely expressed that to the PTO Executives. The may be a requisite, per the City guidelines, that indicates that PTOs be included in school budget or building plans.
And the biggest drawback is that even if you have all of the background information and still feel that it is against the grain of what a PTO should be doing, speaking out may cause more problems than just leaving it as is.
My best recommendation would be to talk with your (or maybe a different) PTO President and see if they can give you any insight into the specifics. Maybe it will make more sense. Another option would be to find out who your Ward's School Committee member is and get in contact with them. They may be able to shed some light.
Good luck, PresidentJim