OK, first,
noboby in their right mind would take any PTO officer position. It actually helps if you're not.....
Second, perhaps the attitudes of the current members is apparent to more people than you and that's what is keeping people away. It has to be fun and the parents have to feel welcome and appreciated. If it's a hostile or negative environment, nobody wants to be there.
You and this other mom sound like just the right people to step up and set things straight. You clearly have good intentions, a willingness to work hard and a real desire to make other parents feel welcome.
Here at PTO Today you have all of the essential tools right at your fingertips: 2 Hour Power, Family Night kits, PTO Today Magazine, Plus Membership, tons of friendly helpful people on the message boards, and now the "LeapFrog’s Next Step: Kindergarten! Program"
www.ptotoday.com/leapfrog/nextstep
that Rockne mentions on another post.
You'll be surprised to see how a fresh attitude and new faces can really jumpstart a whole new year! I hope you seriously consider a leadership position for the sake of you team and the community you serve.