Unfortunately you cannot control her behavior. Just know that when people act nutty, they look nutty. The bright side is that people will begin to see her for what she is. Since she involved the super I would call the super just to give him your boards side of the story and why you did what you did. Tell him you did not put her out of the group and still wanted her to be involved, just not in a chairperson capacity.

The one last thing I might do is send her a letter from your board. I would explain to her again why you made the decision you did in the nicest way possible. Let her know there are bylaws for a reason and that you all have to comply and cannot just do whatever you want without regard for anyone else. I would close the letter by noting that her help is still appreciated and welcomed within the PTO. I would also send a copy of the letter to the Principal and the Super and I would let her know that they had copies of the letter. This way you are up front with your position and have made it clear to all what happened and that you did not just ban this woman from the PTO.

Whatever she choses to do from there you cannot control and you will just have to find a way to tune her out and not worry about what she is doing and/or saying. Don't feed into her insanity and don't give her any power by overreacting to what she does. I have leanred in life with people like this that if you give them all the rope they need and leave them alone they will hang themselves with it.

Hi!!! For some people, they think there is an I in TEAM. It's a shame what she is putting your group through. It only hurts the kids in the end. Since she involved the super. invite him to your meeting & do as Diana suggested. write up a timeline & have any other documentation handy. Good luck!!

Start getting your facts in order. I mean create a timeline with the problems that you expereienced, the meetings that you had, the timelines that show how much you've attempted to work with her. DO NOT speak with her again unless there is a 3d person present and don't be alone in a room with her. Create a memo at the end of the conversation and create a file so that if you are ever brought before someone you have the unemotional log of what has taken place. Hold you ground, don't speak ill of the woman (okay you can be agast with someone you really trust) but give her no fodder to feed whatever is inside of her eating her up. If you are called to the superintendent, you'll have the facts, dates, times and corrective action you attempted to take to ensure the woman had minimal impact on the organization. Those would all be my suggestions...good luck...dianna

I had a similar thing happen. We had a mother who was an officer and was running the group(she wasn't the President) but she was welcoming any new members to the group and was never telling anything that was going on. At a meeting she even started her own conversation when the meeting was going on, she was sitting at the table in front everyone and where all the officers sat. Well, at one meeting she was agreeing with everyone that if you wanted to run for an office then you had to be there. Well, she couldn't attend the next meeting because of a dr's apt but she was in the school building but didn't take 5 minutes to stop by and tell us that she wanted to run for an office but she had to run to the dr. So, we had elections without her. She got so mad and just dropped completly out. I sent her cards to invite her back, called and spoke to her. I finally found out that she thought we should have stopped elections until she could have came. I about fell off my chair laughing. She didn't speak to me didn't and wouldn't pass any notes of the events that she planned and so on. Some of the other officers were her friends and couldn't believe she was acting like to to me. This girl wouldn't speak to me even after I said hi even if we were the only to in the hallway. So, I will get to my point she didn't get verbal or mean to me but she was rude. It took her 2 yrs and she actually has seen the other shoe for say. Since she dropped out of the elem group she jumped right in to our middle school and what she did to us the past officers are or were doing the same to her. I just had to laugh. I think that made her see the light because just last week I said hello again to her and she actually said it back and then made small talk. It was a good thing I was sitting down. LOL I know this doesn't have any great advice but I know what you are going thru and hopefully you will get thru it will little e headaches. I just held my guns with this gal and she learned by other parents and teachers that this group has really came together and the teachers have said they have never seen this group work so well together. So there is hope!
It's a shame you have to have one bad seed in the group.
Well, I'm so sorry I wrote a book but wanted to get the story across!

Thanks for reading
Angie

Ok I need some major advice.
This woman will just not let this go. To refresh your memories I had problems with her running an event she wouldnt work with us letting us know what was going on. The co chairs and others said same thing. She just did things on her own and she got mad if I told her anything. For the most part she was an Ok person but very hard to work with for anyone. So I asked her to step down as chair for the next thing going on in the spring and just be a volunteer. The meeting went fine but then she came into the PTO room and started yelling and getting into faces(kids were int the room) so I asked her to leave the room.
Well she hasnt made things easy she is spreading rumors like wild fire. Saying we kicked her out of the PTO, went to one of my kids teachers, the principal all this kind of juvenile junk.
I have tried to let it all DIE down but that doesnt seem to be working. She wont talk to anyone of the officers but wants the principal to do something.
Now she went to the superintendent of all things. Which the principal is not happy with. The principal knew of this when we did it and has basically said that the PTO is seperate and its their choice to do that.
Now with the superindentent involved I dont know what to do I think he basically has the same philosphy as the principal. They all know the PTO works there butts off and she's just trying to make smoke.
But now I just want to head this girl off but not sure what to do. I think she's going to make a stink at the next meeting she planned on coming to the last one but got called into work.
She's blowing this so out of porportion what do you do with people like her. I think no matter what she just wants attention.
ANy suggestions PTO ers ????

Thanks for listening TOO!!!!!!


CIndy