I don't run everything by ours but I do let Him know what is going on in writing if he is not able to attend.
I do understand you being upset but, remember you are doing this for your children to have a better education.
I have to agree with the previous poster. I would never do anything with our principal's OK. I may pay his salary, but that doesn't mean that I own the school. Principals have to follow the school board's/district's rules. Some sb have unwritten rules that we may not know about. So I leave ideas up to his judgement.
Wow! I could not imagine NOT going over things with my principal. Every piece of paper that goes to the parents from the PTO is reviewed by the principal first. If I make any changes to what's been done in previous years, I verify the changes with the principal, first (before putting in so much as an hour of work). I don't think that's a control freak at all. If the PTO misrepresents the school, does something immoral or illegal, the principal is the one who would be held responsible.
I don't quite know what to say about the, "I pay your salary" attitude, but I certainly wouldn't use it on the principal!
Take it as lesson learned, and verify your plans with your principal before any future actions. It will save you both a great deal of time and headache.
Thank you. I'm still very angry about it. This isn't the first time we've gotten off on the wrong foot. I just thought this year it would be better. I think he has to remember that I'm just a mom, and I'm human-I will make mistakes. I still can't bring myslef to suck up to him just yet let alone play nice to him!
Hi! I understand your anger. We use to have a principal who was like that and I just learned to show him everything and he was okay with everything and life was good. It was a pain in the butt, but everything was fine. One thing we all need to understand sometimes is that the prinicipal is the head honcho at the school, so if something goes awry even if it is a PTO thing, he is still the one who is going to take a beating for it as he is supposed to be aware and all knowing as for what is going on in his building. It makes him look bad if he is clueless to plans that involve the school.
A bad relationship with a principal is not going to help you, your organization, or the kids in anyway. I would just smooth things over and let him think he is the boss! LOL I would tell him that because he did not attend the meeting that you thought he was okay with whatever you were doing or thought that one of the staff had informed him of what the plan was. Then I would talk to him about the event and see what issues he has and try to come to any compromises if need be. Make it clear that you understand his position and promise to inform him of all future plans and events for his approval. You know the old saying" You catch more flies with honey". I know your angry, but if you go at this man with your anger I can guarantee you it will serve no one and you will come out of the gate on the wrong foot with him.
