First- You need to talk to your VP. I'm not quite understanding what she did or what you are upset about...you were about as clear as mud
...but you really need to ask her or let her know you want to work with her.
Second- My principal asks to see ANYTHING we send home, donation letters, well anything that has to do with the school. We are not a separte idenity and nor will we be, so yep, it is "her" school and I don't mind compling with her. HANG ON- that is at my school. Just as we like to know what are kids are doing, a Principal likes (well you find the rare ones anyone) that want to know what we are doing. fair? Heathr....fair? Okay but do you see my point?
It's always a challenge when we have a great idea and then find out that we were suppose to talk to these people, fill out these forms, jump through that hoop....it's the part of volunteering that is the hardest.
What are you doing that you don't feel you need permission? Don't come to my school. I just filled out an activity sheet for EVERY PTO meeting this school year, every skte party, every assembly etc. I'm up to 50 sheets that have to be hand written. Crazy? Sure it is, BUT the Principal, maintence crew, school board all know when we will be meeting and most of our activites. No it's not an outragious request. They do the same for us but it comes in a calendar.
Please just talk to everyone, espically your VP. I bet she didn't mean any harm, remember this is her first year.
Hang in there.....