Luckily, your opinion isn't universal and not all schools have that rule. My daughter's school is 7 miles from us in an urban section of our community. Some kids live in nice rural developments, some on farms, and some in the inner city. Some don't have phones (as odd as that sounds). The only time she sees some of her friends are at school or at parties. These kids wouldn't be invited if they couldn't get their invites at the school.

And not distributing the invites at the school because a kid might read it outloud and hurt someones feelings makes no sense unless your school also has a no discussing parties afterwards rule, too.

My (very strong) opinion is that birthday party invitations should not be delivered at school unless the entire class in invited. Distributing these are not the teacher's job and puts her/him in an awkward situation. Kids feeling are so easily hurt and the ones not invited will find out. Who's to keep the ones who do receive an invitation from reading it as they get it. And so on. Two schools we were at actually had a "No invitations" rule in place for these exact reasons. :cool:

At our school, at least in the younger grades K-1 and maybe 2nd, the teachers will distribute b-day invitations into a child's folder. If you think about it, which is less disruptive - the teacher putting a few invites into folders or a child doing it in front of the rest of the class?

My kids have never been in a school where invitations that are not for the whole classroom can be distributed. That's two elementaries, a Montessori pre-school & kindergarten, and a day-care center. You can put all the effort you want into teaching your kids that they won't be invited to everything -- BUT THEY'RE STILL KIDS! Plus, just because you teach your kids that doesn't mean that other parents are teaching their kids that.

This will only work if the kids are old enough to know their own phone numbers, but here's what I've done. If I don't know the parents or don't have their phone number available, I just have my daughter ask the other kid for his/her phone number. Then I call the parent, introduce myself, tell them why I need their address, and get it that way. The only time I have ever had a teacher distribute invitations was in preschool when the whole class was invited to the party.

At our old school our teachers sliped the inventations in the kids book bags the ones that my child picked to come to there party. At this new school, we have to invite the whole class because it isn't fair to the other kids if they don't get invited. The way that I raise my kids you don't get invited to everything and thats how life is. I've tried looking in the phone book and if they aren't listed then how else can I invite them. Does anyone else have any ideas for this and maybe make it eaiser for next year? :confused: