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PTO should do more..How do I tell the Prez this?

14 years 1 month ago #155118 by Fed Up
It's always tough when you've been in a leadership role to "sit back and watch"--especially when you know that you would do it differently. That being said, you're in a new school and the culture is obviously different. Rather than take the approach of "they're not doing enough"--why not ask the questions "hey--is there a reason we don't do this, or is there a reason why the principal manages the major fundraisers?" Or--"have you considered this?" You might be surprised to learn that maybe there's a reason behind the "why"---which could stem from anything from the abysmal "that's the way we've always done it" to something more substansive. Or perhaps, there are guidelines and rules that aren't shared, or were shared so long ago and have become part of the fabric that it's taken for granted that "everyone knows" and the veterans forget to share with new members.

A lot of times, I find parents--especially brand new parents--look critically at what I volunteer/volunteered for in the past at my kids' school (I have stepped way back from PTO/HSA, even though I'm a former president, but still maintain a bit of a leadership role on a different level for the school). They have all these "bright ideas" and wonder "why don't we do this or that". While every now and then someone does present a great idea, a lot of times, there's more to the story that they're either not aware or not considering that impacts the decision making process---often much bigger than even our school administrators (for instance--the diocesan rules supercede all else in our school). Often times, too, the idea has been discussed and dismissed well before the person brings it up because it's been thought through carefully and the benefits vs. negatives have already been weighed. Once that's explained to someone, it often clicks---though I do leave open the thought "well, certainly, if you can see a way to work this out, given this information, please feel free to re-present this idea with a plan."

By the way--I say this as a veteran--but I was also a new parent at one point, too, looking in and wondering "why don't we...". It's taken my several years to understand the dynamics that come into play with our school's decision making, and is in part the reason why I've honed on to one area in which I can make a difference and focus my energies there now.


And I'm sure next year, when my daughter goes to high school at a different school, I'll be asking those questions all over again, too.
14 years 1 month ago #155029 by cmrsun
I was PTO President at the school my child attended last year. I'm having a hard time sitting back watching the way things are run at our new school.

This PTO seems to be only focused on the "nice nice" things. Meaning, a day doesn't go by when a Board Member isn't looking through a catalog or bringing in something they have already purchased for Teacher Appreciation Week. Or, they are handing out treats and cute notes to students. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate and adore the teachers and the notes to students are adorable. But, they do not have an operating budget and had decided during the summer that $1000 was a good number for teacher appreciation gifts. That is a little less than half of what is in the bank.

The PTO recently decided that they were only going to do one spirit night (restaurant fundraiser) this month. The school principal jumped on it and decided the school would hold it. She is even thinking of taking on an entertainment book fundraiser. The PTO should be fundraising for new computers not our principal. Obviously the principal doesn't feel like she can come to the PTO for the serious stuff. At our last school we had funding request forms. This PTO sent out "get to know you" questionnaires. It asked teachers what their favorite colors were and what their favorite store was. No doubt to help with all the gift buying.

Meetings are almost a joke. They are held prior to a grade performance. I would much rather see 10 enthusiastic PTO members at a meeting than 50 people who are forced to sit through a meeting prior to watching their child perform. You can tell from body language and even some mumbling that they are not happy about it.

I do want to say that these are some wonderful women. They have welcomed me into their group and I truly appreciate that. I have been holding my tongue for just that reason. I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or come off as if I have all the answers. My child is in the fifth grade and will be moving on to middle school next year. Should I even bother saying something or do I just do my time volunteering and then move on. If I do speak up, what's the best way do that?

Thanks for taking the time to read all this...lol.

Cmrsun
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