Okay, y'all, I have to give my two cents here...As our PTO Pres. for our second year, and as the one that got our PTO started this past year, AND being a first grade teacher, I don't think it is too much to ask that the teachers be somewhat involved. Do I think they need to attend the meetings? Quite honestly, no. Knowing how much we put into planning lessons (I truly don't know of a single teacher that only works during school hours), I don't ask much from the teachers unless it is something really needed. I remind them at every faculty meeting what PTO stands for and yes, we are a PTO not a PO. Lord knows I did not start the PTO because I had lots of extra time on my hands...I wanted our school to feel more like a community and have parents and teachers working towards a common goal - our children's education.
Being new, we have not had a lot of requests from teachers yet, nor do we give the teachers a stipend for the class. Thankfully our county has given every teacher a very small amount each year, although not nearly enough to cover what I spend on my class. I don't really think it's fair to "give" money to teachers to use on their classrooms and then expect them to come to meetings or to be the first to volunteer for an event. Remember, it is given as a gift to the teachers to be used on OUR children.
As for sending notes home, whether weekly, daily, whatever, this is something that teachers do constantly...and not just for PTO. Yes, it can be a royal pain in the tush (sp?), but most of us do it. If you absolutely have to have something sent home on a certain day because of something happening that night, maybe you could try to get it to the teachers a day earlier. Sometimes, and I'm not saying this is always the case, but sometimes, teachers have a lot going on at the end of the day (especially Fridays) and forget to stuff our darlings' backpacks with yet another note.
If you need to reach the teachers at your school, you may ask to be added to the school's intranet if it has one. A lot of times I simply email the entire faculty if there is something important I want them to know about. Just remember to keep it short (unlike this message

) or they may not read it.
QueenBee - If you really need the teachers' help for something, ask them. Be specific about what you need, especially time. Also, just like with volunteers, if you allow them to buddy up with another teacher or parent they're comfortable with, you're more likely to get their help.
By the way, has anyone attempted to talk to the entire faculty about "your" needs? Just a thought.
Okay, I think I've said enough.
Deb