Thank you all for trying to help me with my problem. I have decided to ease back a little bit, give her some time and see what happens. We started school Monday and I had my first meeting with her today. Everything went really good. My husband gave me some good advice. He said, "Don't Worry, Be Happy!" I am going to try and be as positive as I can, no matter what happens. As Vice President, the Committee Chairs are looking to me for guidance. I figure I can give them negative and the mood will become negative, or I can opt for positive and hopefully have a PTO Room full of positive!! (We can only hope) Thanks again everyone for hearing me and helping me, too!! Have a great year!

Hi VIP mom...I can totally relate to what you are going through.My principal asked me to run our new pto during it's fourth month.She was in her second year. We developed a great working relationship and even friendship but this last spring i really felt that we had become distance and found myself asking what i did wrong. The truth of the matter i strongly believe that she learned to trust my decisions and choices. She no longer needs to know everything i do although by choice i do tell here before!! I think your situation might be the same, at first she wants to support you and help you in any way, then she realizes that the parent group can be selfsupported and that she can still support you without all the input. It doesn't mean that you did anything wrong, it is more a trust issue. I think that as parent group leaders we sometimes think that it's the most imporatnt thing (to us...yes) but when you consider that the principal has so much on her plate , the realistic aspect is that the parent group is so far on the list behind safety,education, students, adminstration, board of ed, testing, disicipline,teachers/staff, etc. Trust me i felt the same way you do...talk with her and lay it out. I think you will find out that she believes in you no matter what and that she will continue to support you in different ways. Do i miss the old "relationship" ? Yes I do but i can clearly see that there are so many things that have to come first.We do have one rule...to meet every month and just talk over things. Before you jump on her(I almost Did) sit and talk it over with her...it's a great thing to have a great relationship there. I have also learned that some parents may get jealous and will try tbring it down so follow your thinking and dismiss any rumors you may hear!! good luck

I have had lunch with my Principal to hash out stuff like this. She hears stuff and I hear stuff and we agree to take an hour (or so) and talk about it OFF CAMPUS at a nice little spot for lunch. We even find a place outta the way so we don't run into anyone from school. And it's dutch.

It helps and keeps the lines of communtication open, and to be honest we have had some REALLY good laughs!

I'm not sure I would ask others first. It may get back to her and she could resent the fact you didn't go directly to her first. Go to the principal. Be calm and don't accuse. It's true that she may have no idea she is being percieved this way. If there is a problem, either try to work it out, or accept it and remember that you are all there to do what's in the best interest of the children! Good Luck!

Hi there. I would first talk to others and see if they are getting the cold shoulder as well. If they are then I would ask the principal for a meeting with all involved parties. If not then ask the principal for a meeting with you. Talk to her about how well you worked together before and that you hope to be able to work together again this year but you feel some coldness from here, is there a problem?.... If you don't go to her then the problem will never go away. Maybe she doesn't even realize how she is presenting herself or that her feelings were hurt and she is upset because no one is "reading her mind" and has adressed the problem.
Good luck!

The first half of last year my principal (new principal) was all smiles & hugs. Somewhere along the line, her attitude completely changed towards me. I can't figure out why!! I haven't done anything to her or anyone else in the school. I have always been cheery and to be honest, worked my bum off for the school. Now that school is about to begin, I am on the board again and the attitude is still there. It is upsetting to me, because I have worked so hard. What to do?!? Should I confront her (nicely) and ask if there is a problem? Or, should I just keep trucking and not let her get to me (it would be hard)? I'M SO CONFUSED!!!!!