Before acting, I suggest you wait a few days to see who else may have more to add to this proposed communication plan. Then re-organize this as you see fit and repost your own plan then wait a couple days to see what reaction you get. The with those things put into your
I may be wrong here, but it sounds like she's not satisfied with how the PTO is operating. The question now is, is she right or wrong? This is tough medicine to swallow.
Prepare a list of events the PTO was involved in last year as well as how much money the PTO has raised, if you don't already have it ready.
I'd have a talk with her and tell her that you're excited that she cares enough to attend and participate in the PTo meetings. Tell her you're getting the impression that she'd like to see the PTO improve. I'd ask questions to help you understand her expectations. Before you ask, write down your own answers to the questions, but do not share them with her just yet.
When you show up to the meeting, explain the process you'd like to use to get the most out of your time together
A) You'll ask her questions and Write down her answers
Review what you've written down with her to make sure you've recorded it properly
C) You'll share you own answers to these questions
D) Then you'll ask more questions and record more answers and share prior results
E) You'll share the topics you have to discuss in Step F and decide to proceed or reschedule.
F) Then you'll collaborate on next steps.
G) You both will adjourn and allow for some self soul searching and decide when or if you should talk more.
Here are some questions for step A above you might choose to ask her:
1) What do you think the mission of the PTO is?
2) What new and old events do you think the PTO should be sponsoring?
3) What projects and events should the PTO be funding?
4) Do you have a certain $ range in mind for how much money should the PTO be raising?
5) Should the PTO be responsible for helping with classroom specific event as the teacher requests?
6) What is her goal for volunteer hours for the next year?
7) What percentage of volunteer hours should be done during school hours versus after school hours?
8) How should the PTO leadership be soliciting parental and teacher involvement?
Then after her answers to the above questions are written down, so you can reflect on them over and over again, ask these questions: (This is still step A)
How is the PTO currently doing at fullfilling it's mission?
For the events the PTO has already been involved in, which should be stopped, scaled back, continued pretty much as is, scaled up, or reorganized?
What new events should be started?
Share the difference in money she thinks you should be raising versus what you did raise last year.
What does she think is the best way to raise that amount of money?
It's time for Step B - Review what you've written
It's time for Step C - Share your answers
It's time for Step D - Ask the questions below...
Given the answers you've given me, which are most important to improve on first?
How quickly do you think these improvements can and should happen?
Take a minute to share the topics in step E below and decided if you and she are ready to move forward, or need to schedule another meeting to do these. If either of you is not ready, I suggest you wait to go into them. Signs that you are not ready to move forward are that you are shocked by any of her previous answers.
It's time for Step E - Share the topics in Step F and decided to discuss or reschedule.
It's time for Step F - Collaborate with her and share the list below before expecting a response
How do the goal of volunteer hours compare to other schools? More, less, pretty much in line? This let's you know if you'll have to do more or less than other schools to reach those goals, (if that's what you want to do)
What is common between her goals and your goals?
Where are the differences? What is in common? (You want to close the gap in differences and continue or increase activities in the common areas).
What skill sets do you need yourself to acheive those goals?
How can you find others that have those skills?
How can you excite others to get on board?
Now it's time for Step G - (when you are alone)
Given that there will likely be differences, which differences are you willing to work toward closing?
Which differences is she willing to work toward closing?
Then ask yourself, are her expectations realistic?