If these allegations are true, I don't care if she has paid her dues, she has a pattern of violent behavior, which is much more disturbing to me than one single, isolated incident. I would not want my child around her, ever, and I would not participate in any parent group that she was leading. Whether your group is a separate entity or not, I have a feeling that the BOE and principal could be liable in a lawsuit because they know about her pattern of violent behavior and did not step in. For pete's sake, they won't let her work around children and yet won't intervene in this situation--irresponsible!
Now, the other part of your problem. I think the issue of no elections and bylaws not being followed needs to be addressed, and I would do it at their first meeting, bringing with me, of course, as many concerned parents as I could find. If the group refused to do things as they should be done, I would not participate in their group and either wait out their reign, or if enough parents felt the same way, set up a proper parent group...which, as I re-read responses, is pretty much what CrewChief said [img]smile.gif[/img]
Work your way up the food chain until you get answers and action: principal, superintendant, school board, and if all else fails, this is one heck of a story for the media.