I'm not a lawyer, but here's my understanding...
Yes, a non-profit can expend funds to benefit a single child if the activity in question supports the non-profits' mission AND if it isn't for the direct benefit one of the stakeholders that has influence over the operation of the organization. (Not to say, for example, a board members' child would always be exempt from any such awards, but in such a case, you better have all the t's crossed and i's dotted and the member in question should abstain from any part in the decision making.)
So again, we are back to legality versus policy.
Can you? Yes.
Should you? Depends.
In general, PTO's try to expend their funds to benefit the majority of children, so you'd have to be certain that whatever you do had the support of your membership.
Here's some of the IRS language...
The organization must not be organized or operated for the benefit of private interests, such as the creator or the creator's family, shareholders of the organization, other designated individuals, or persons controlled directly or indirectly by such private interests. No part of the net earnings of an IRC Section 501(c)(3) organization may inure to the benefit of any private shareholder or individual. A private shareholder or individual is a person having a personal and private interest in the activities of the organization. If the organization engages in an excess benefit transaction with a person having substantial influence over the organization, an excise tax may be imposed on the person and any managers agreeing to the transaction.
[ 06-03-2004, 09:21 AM: Message edited by: JHB ]