Two years ago, one of our veeps came to a meeting blitzed. Not only did she show up drunk, but went around the room talking AT teachers and other PTVO members. It didn't take too long for everyone to figure out that she was drunk. Where that in itself was not appropriate, that is not what we deemed the problem to be.
I met with the principal the next morning to discuss the veep. It really wasn't a 'school' problem, but the facts are that she was underage (20 years old), drove her car to and from the meeting in her condition, and worst of all (as if those issues were not enough), she had her kids in the car!
It was decided that even though it was not a 'school' issue, that the school, its staff, the PTVO and its staff looked bad and would look worse if no action was taken. We spoke to the veep. She didn't deny anything, but seemed to be trying to justify her actions. She apologized, not for doing it, but for our not sympathizing with her under the circumstances (single mom, broke all the time, ADD/ADHD kids, etc.).
The principal and myself, after speaking to her, could come to no other conclusion but to relieve her of her position. It wasn't an easy decision, and it was made privately between the principal and myself, mainly to avoid any further speculation or embarrassment.
While I would defend a person's right to have a few cocktails (who among us hasn't had, or wished they had...lol, a drink or two after a particularly tough day, meeting or event?), I think that if you hold a position in a service organization that deals with children and/or childrens issues you need to exert some self control when it comes to drinking, swearing, smoking, etc. in public, and especially when you're going to be on school grounds. If you can't, then a position in an organization of this nature probably isn't something you should be holding. I know I'm saying it badly, but you all know what I mean... I hope...
There is a time and a place for everything. This was neither. If the veep is genuinely sorry, and didn't break the law (driving to the meeting while intoxicated, etc.), then maybe this is a one time thing. If, like in our case, the veep is wondering what YOUR problem is, I say CAN 'EM!