LOL re the duck comment-I've been thinking the exact same thing, and now I'm "duck hunting".
Unfortunately there aren't that many parents who attend our meetings, and the ones who do and show any kind of initiative get sucked into the black hole of board positions as fast as we can get them; that translates into an all novice board though, which is then "led" by the one person who has lots of experience and a strong personality. I spoke to our past Secretary recently and mentioned that the General meeting hadn't gone well, and when she asked what happened I said well, so-and-so was questioned about some things she did, and that was all I had to say...You do NOT question her authority in any way, and the ex-Secretary was rolling her eyes and saying "Oh no" immediately.
Last year the way the Prez performed the Treasurer duties was laughable-she'd throw money into her purse, into her trunk, actually admitted she had 10 deposits in her house b/c she didn't have time to go to the bank (over a period of months), we went 3 months without a Treasurer's Report and when I pointed out how bad that looked, the fourth month she gave an "unofficial" report of "This is how much was in the bank at 2PM today, this is what we paid for-but no receipts-and that's all I had time to do."
The problem is that I keep getting told we've always done things this way and there's never been a problem, so why worry? Don't you trust her? Well, I know for a fact that she was in a money crunch last year b/c she would talk about it, and this year it's gotten worse, so yeah, I worry. Especially since my name is on a lot of those checks and I was her best buddy while I was going along with the program, but now she's trying everything she can to discredit me. I saw it last year too-the one person who kept trying to hold her accountable was harassed and talked about behind his back until he finally got fed up and quit; since I was honest about my feeling that he did have a point, every reference to him is prefaced by, "Your FRIEND so-and-so..."
Frankly, I'm vacillating between quitting myself b/c I worry about this a lot and no one else who has any experience seems to give a damn, and being stubborn and sticking it out, even though I know she can make my life a living hell.