This subject has brought out the best and the worst in some of us no doubt. I must say to SFilak that the subject here was not about the outside community helping, but about a PTA/PTO 'family' helping. Sometimes doing the "right" thing is not the same as following the established rules. I fully agree with Chrystal that our school is a family. When I walk on the campus as my son's mother, I am just that. When I walk on that campus as the PTVO President or any member of PTVO for that matter, I have 751 children and they are all mine. Would I deny my own child a funeral donation? No. Absolutely, I would find a way to raise funds for this family, be it a car wash, spaghetti dinner, personal plea to others in the area. I'm a natural born fund raiser. In answer to the question of is it right that the PTA/PTO not be able to donate? It most certainly is not. Again, the school children raised the money. It is theirs. It should be spent with the best of intentions. What, in your humble opinion, makes a piece of playground equiptment more important than a $100 donation to a child's funeral? A child who will never get to play on it, see it, touch it? I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure if the question were posed to the students, the teachers, the PTA/PTO body, that the answer would have been to donate the money in addition to holding a fundraiser of some sort. When I spoke about the difference between a PTA and PTO, I meant that the PTO, while having and using strict guidelines, we have what is probably a little more freedom to do for our own, not that we have more compassion. I don't think that you are hard hearted, just tied by some rules that don't distinguish between a fire and a death. And as we are all aware, we can't be a charity to charities. As Chystal said, I would rather be the President who had to resign because I okayed a funeral donation than the President who did nothing. Also, on the issue of slave laborers, I just meant that if you try hard enough, you can always find a way around the law. Legally, that is...lol..
Even though our opinions differ on what we believe our organization should have, could have done, we all seem to have our children and our organizations close to our hearts.