I believe somedays we all need to take a step back and ask ourselves "Why are volunteering our valuable time and efforts?"
There is one simply answer why we do.... what we do....
"It's all about the Children"
The personal differnces or opinions amongst adults sometimes need to be let go.
"Refocus on why your Organization was started". Once again, it's all about the Children.
One suggestion for your next meeting is simply state why each one of you are dedicating your time. Restate mission, values and goals of your organization. It's not about ego's or making someone look good. Once again, it's all about the Children and being successful for the children to enhance their educational experience.
Wow, this sounds so familiar to me! I'm President this year and my VP has resented it from day 1! She has been sending emails out and even sent one that she has no idea I received an automatic forward copy on, stating she felt the organization is the worst ever. She's also sent emails criticizing how I have ran the meetings, bashing other Board members and bashing committee chairs. She has offered to take on tasks and doesn't follow through, but is constantly on watch of what I do. It has been a nightmare!
She sent me an email stating she will not be continuing next year and if I had someone to replace her, it would not hurt her feelings to step down. I did ask her based on her feelings towards the group, that it would be best that she step down and submit her resignation. Now she's stating she never said that to me. Oh she's driving me crazy! But I'm not wanting to start a war, and realizing there are only 4 months of the school year left and although the road will be long, I'm just going to grin and bear it! I've checked our bylaws, but nothing states about removing an officer. Am I doing the right thing?
Check your by-laws. If there is nothing there about this issue (even a conduct clause), Robert's Rules has specific procedures to follow to remove a board member. You'll want to pick up a copy at your local bookstore.
It depends on what your bylaws say. Check the provisions for removing officers, and follow them if you think it's necessary. I'd probably warn her privately first to knock it off or I'll seek her removal from office, and help her understand how that will make her look when you publish that action in the newsletter. Be careful not to make that sound like a threat or a retaliatory smear; just state your objections to her behavior as unemotionally as possible and then say something like, "If this keeps up, I'll have to hold a vote to remove you from office, and I'll have to explain in the notice of the meeting and again at the meeting why I think you need to be removed. That'll probably be pretty embarrassing for you, and I'd hate to have to do that, but I will if you force me to."
Is there any way to vote out a current Vice President? If so, how? I am the President and our Vice President is on a mission to take over the PTO. She wants all current officers out. She will bad mouth the other officers during meetings and holds "meetings" in the parking lot to try and get parents on her side. So far she is failing at this smear campain. She has been personally attacking me and another officer. I do not like this behavior and I do think it is right to keep her on as VP. I do not want her representing our group in this manner. What can I do to get her off of our board?