Hi CSP -
I don't think it is as black-and-white as you're making it out to be.
I agree that the finances are usually different and that the fundraising earnings are usually connected to tuition, which is very different than a public school PTO.
But I think that discussion ignores several essential roles of a parent group. PTOs, PTAs, HSAs -- the most important job of all of them is to build involvement and create the great community around a school that allows that school to thrive. And related to that is also building parent involvement.
Both of these really essential roles are best accomplished by a parent group allowed the freedom to do great things. Parent groups -- even at Catholic schools -- that are totally controlled/dominated by a principal or a pastor will inevitably do less well on these two really key functions. The most talented parents will find other outlets for their leadership and tealents, outlets where those talents are put to great use. Maybe they'll run the local Little League or organize the Cancer walk-a-thon in town. That's a huge loss for the school and the kids.
Back to Eric -- the principal and pastor at your school need to see all the good that comes from a really well-functioning parent group. The research is powerful. How can you nicely share that? Maybe they honestly don't know it or don't believe it.
Even in a Catholic school, it's definitely not just about fundraising. (By the way, if the leader *is* mostly concerned about fundraising, it's also true that the schools witht he highest involvement also raise the most funds
. So perhaps you canmake headway that way, as well.)
Tim