Having read the recent dialog regarding the issue of PTA vs. PTO, I would like to pose a few questions to any experts out there. Before I ask such questions, I would like to caution anyone out there about the pitfalls of making these changes as I am presently caught up in the throws of one school district's decision. For some reason, my contemporaries feel the switch from PTA to PTO means total disregard for any rules of decorum. We have no officers...just board members and a treasurer. At any time the
rules can change, and, if you're very lucky you might get wind of it via the grapevine. I can honestly say that more times than not, I have learned of financial decisions through our only written document... the next month's treasurer's report. There are no majority votes, just everyone "too willing" to please our principal who, I may add, also serves as the treasurer. We pay for luncheons we are excluded from ("Teacher's Only"), fund field trips for some, less for others, and most recently been asked to foot the bill for an after school program that benifits a choosen few. I found this particularly distrubing since I had no forwarning of this issue and no way to check if these few students had parents with paid memberships. I warned other officers that this,among other issues was dangerous territory, but the need to please seem more important at the time. In retrospect, I found that my own child could have, and should have, benifitted greatly from this reading program and I now want my fair share of the pie. Sound like a mess? Wait... it gets better...
Keeping my mouth shut and working every event got me... absolutely nowhere...
I have recently come up for re-election and, guess what- every thing changed again! We have un-nominated candidates running against me... by the way I didn't even know about. We had two positions, no, one position, no make that two positions again until election day... then we were back to one position but another candidate. Our fearless principal decided the only fair thing to do was to postpone the election until October. She called to tell me that I will keep my post through the fall because my opponent doesn't have a child in the school yet, nor is she a paid member. I will go on setting our agenda, calendar, fundraisers, etc. with the possibility looming over my head that I may be replaced. Better than all of this, both of my opponents were unavailable to return her phone call for days, and were not present at our last PTO meeting for the year to hear their fate. Is this fun or what? The idea for working for the common good is no longer something I embrace. I thought my presence in school would be an excellent learning device for my children. The thought of teaching them community spirit and the notion of hard work paying off is no longer a relevent issue in my home. To say I am deeply hurt and sadened is an understatement. The question I am facing now is a "no brainer". I can see that I have no choice but to vacate my position, but how do I make it right? Do I want to right all these wrongs even though every fiber of my being says to fight? Why didn't I speak up sooner? Is it too late to do something, and if so, what? I need comments and opinions from any or all of you, especially someone who may have found themselves in a similar situation.