I'd still recommend a call to the IRS. Despite the language of the instructions, they may well let you get by with it in the bylaws and save doing an amendment.
When we filed (under the old rules) we didn't know about the dissolution clause. They called me and we had to fax a letter signed by 2 officers as to the language we'd be adding and that it would be voted in at the next General Meeting (which was a few months away). It didn't slow down our application at all and we were able to wait until later to make all/any changes to our documents.
Also, be sure and read that section of the instructions. If you are a corporation or charitable trust in certain states, you don't even need the dissolution clause.
On the conflict of interest policy, it's recommended, not required. But if you don't have one, you'll have to provide some attached info about how you handle potential issus. It's probably easier just to adopt their generic one. But that doesn't necessarily have to be in your organizing document or bylaws. At most, you'll likely have a generic statement with the Policy as a separate document.
One of my PTOs added this sentence in the bylaws.
All PTO officers, directors, and members will abide by the organization’s Conflict of Interest Policy as well as any state and federal laws governing conflict of interest applicable to nonprofit and charitable organizations.
[ 06-03-2005, 06:14 PM: Message edited by: JHB ]