Hi wmjake,
I'll pass along the link here to a great article that takes a look at how to set up a policy and procedures manual. It's a good starting point.
As far as the specific issue you are raising, let me tell you, you have hit on an important topic and one that causes lots of groups concern. Of course your group wants to help others in need, but you are smart to try to outline a policy or at least identify what a "crisis'' is and how your group will respond.
This can be tricky because not all of your members will agree and they are all entitled to a voice. Here's what we've seen: Some groups draw a pretty firm line against any sort of monetary donation from the group for families with a health crisis or in the event of a death in the family and instead offer to ask parents for a separate donation. This avoids the issue of spending PTO funds. Other groups determine up front that they will offer some support and creating a "rainy day'' type account.
In terms of drawing the line for the other "extras,'' the principal always has the right to ask, but have confidence that you and your board have the right to (politely) refuse if the request doesn't fit with your group's mission.
Good luck!
- Rose H
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